Channeling Desire Into Action

Many pageant girls are "in it to win it," meaning that they enter pageant competitions mainly to win the crown. While there is nothing wrong with desiring the title, I want to show you how to channel your desire into proper preparation and help you understand that certain degrees of desire can be damaging.

You have taken the first step by identifying your desire as the pageant title. The next step is to determine what steps you need to take in order to be successful at the pageant. You should not only clarify what you want to accomplish, but the ways to achieve your pageant goals. I always recommend that you break down your goals into small, manageable steps.

You need to acknowledge that taking action is essential for preparing for a pageant. You truly have to commit to giving yourself enough time to prepare, and that you make the most of your time. You cannot succeed in the interview competition without practicing with sample questions or understanding current events. You cannot have a successful walk during the evening wear if you have never worn your shoes and gown prior to the pageant. Your body may not be bikini-ready if you do not exercise regularly. Whenever I realize that I need to take action in order to accomplish my goals, the Britney Spears lyric, "Why don't ya do somethin'?" always comes to my mind.

You need to devote part of your time at least a few times a week to preparing for your pageant. Even if you take only twenty minutes a day for three or four times a week to work on your walk, that time counts. When you are in those twenty minutes, you want to focus completely on your preparation. You may want to be alone or with your pageant coach. You do not want to accept phone calls or texts. You are not going to be checking e-mail or doing anything unrelated to your pageant walk in those twenty minutes. From the moment you begin preparation, you want to be a thousand percent committed to your preparation cause until the last second of your preparation slot. No matter how badly you want to win, it may be hard to feel the desire in your moment of preparation. A great way to bring your mind to your desire is to tell yourself in a positive tone: "You want it? Go get it!" This phrase reminds you that you want to win, but that you have a responsibility to take action in order to be successful.

However, you have to understand that many judges can sense if you have a desperate desire for the crown. The energy of wanting the crown a little too much can be repulsive. If you believe in yourself, give your all, and stay true to who you are, then that is all that matters. You want to possess self-confidence, but also faith (without any expectation) that your desire will be fulfilled. You can turn over your desire, either to God through prayer or to fate through trusting that what is meant to be will be.

I wish you the best in all of your pageant goals, and I hope that you will go for whatever you want in pageantry and life!

-Miss Pageant Prep